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Live Your Life Your Way

You have a God given right to enjoy life.



Of course there will be difficult days,difficult people and difficult situations.



You have to learn what is and isn't important to you,what you're willing to work for and what it is you need,want and desire.



Once you have figured that out,everything else should fall into place.



You stop sweating the small stuff that has nothing to do with your happiness or well being.



Sorry to say some of the small stuff will be people.



I have this philosphy I've lived by for years and it has helped me immensely and I'm sure it can do the same for you.



If something doesn't bring positivity,joy,wisdom and happiness to me I don't need it or them in my life.



This is a very big lesson,it'll be an ahhh,haaa moment for many.



We all have them in our lifes, toxic,negative people.



We seem to feel that we are obligated to friends and associates to be nice, common and courteous.



You only owe that to people who return it and respect you.



Don't get caught up in how long you've known a person or that you just can't believe they would do such a thing or say such a thing.



If something transpires and you're surprised at an action.



Shake it off and keep moving on with your happiness.



Why?



That's what they're trying to mess with!



Some people can't stand to see others happy,successful,being loved or any of the good stuff we all want for ourselves and others if you're a truehearted and loving being.



These people will try to bring you drama in whatever avenue they can.



I have had to sever quite a few so-called friendships.



I saw the signs for awhile but sometimes you hope/think it's not what it is...jealousy,envy and hate!



It's really sad to think that some people are jealous of others happiness,but what's really sad is that this person is just watching and waiting for you to fail or for your relationship to go sour for them to feel some joy in your pain.



These people are the biggest hypocrites so watch them closely.



You know them and once you identify the characteristics you'll know also.



Here's afew...



Always having something to say about things you do in a negative way.



Example: Why you need to buy that? You always spending money.



Always have something to say negative about peoples actions but doing the action themselves.



Example: Why do these scandalous women sleep with other people's husbands or men?



All the while they're emailing and prank calling the wives and girlfriends of the man/men they're sleeping with.



I could go on and on but these are just afew I have experienced first hand.



I've had so-called friends go after a man of mine,an ex of mine and try to take a few friends of mine.



Luckily I know where I stand because it all comes to light everything you try to do in the dark.



My life isn't suppose to filled with such negative,toxic,ugly things.



My life is all about living positivity,loving my life and my family,and growing in spirit,in God and in life.



If your friends aren't of the same mindset,it'll come to light.



And you'll see what it is so-called friends are really after.



Being it your man,your friends,or them just thinking they can do you better than you can.



Hate to say it but everyone that claims to be a friend isn't,but you can't go through life contantly looking upside people's head trying to figure them out.



Let the chips fall where they may and it'll all come to light.



Then address the situation accordingly.



That being said life is easier once the clutter is cleared.



Organize your life and remove the clutter,whatever it maybe.



It's truly cleansing!!



As Always...Blessings To All!!  





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Can We Agree To Disagree The Truth?

We all know that everyone doesn't see things the same way.


Different people will see things different ways.

A person's perception has a lot to do with their upbringing,what they have learned and seen,and alot has to do with personality in general.

But the truth is the truth no gray area in that.

You can put whatever spin or slant on any issue to make it go your way,or to make you seem righteous or correct.

That's where spin doctors come from,trying to spin the ugly truth into something not so ugly.

Some people try to spin things their way or in their favor.It may last for a minute but the truth always surfaces.Then comes another spin to spin that.

But the truth is what it is the truth.

Alot of people don't want to face the truth or own up to their actions.


You can agree to disagree on many things but the truth isn't one of them.

So don't get caught up in a whirliwnd and get disoriented.

Stand firm in your truth.

Keep your proof,your documentation,yes, your evidence if you must.

Cold hard facts are hard to deny.But they'll try!

Stand on your facts and produce them if needed.

Truth always prevails!!!!

I Understand. But do you?

This is really simple,but still many people just don't get it.




Do you have those friends that it seems nothing happens good for?



Do you have those friends that are always in drama?



Are these the same friends that constantly talk about others people's business?



The same friends that aren't totally supportive or happy when someone else catches a break? Saying in the background,why didn't that happen to me?



The same friends that want to be all in your affairs trying to reap accolades off of your coat tails just by association?



The same friends that all of a sudden are claiming kinship,family ties?





I take pride and love my family but some of them I wouldn't claim if had a choice.



So claiming to be my sister,cousin or whatever only means you're trying to get close enough to get something or use me for something.





These are usually the people that get caught up in mess and want to bring you down with them.



But for some reason every attempt fails,the slander and ugly talk they try to throw your way isn't sticking.



It isn't sticking because it's of no importance.



I understand.



I understand that I am here for Thee and Me.



I understand that I must be true to what I was raised on.



Being truthful



Being respectful



Being empathetic



Being compassionate



Being smart



Never being the fool



The last one is very important,because being all of the above will lead some people to think/believe you're a push over or easy target.



Plain and simple take your kindness for weakness.



But it's okay whatever these so called friends try to take or do succeed to take will only be replaced triple fold!!!



Being it your feelings,your money,your man or anything of importance.



God's got you!!!



I understand that you can not have malice and hate in yourself if you want God to work with you.



Wondering why things aren't working out?



Work on yourself!





Stay Blessed

As I look back on my life so far,I've noticed quite afew things.



I've always been abit of a loner and alittle different.



Not that there's anything wrong with either it just is what it is.



I was in competitive swimming for years.That takes dedication and discipline but it's also lonely and time consuming.I do beleive that you can become burned out even on something you love.



I was also alittle different in my style of dress and my hair was way before it's time.



My son recently saw a high school pic of me and said" Mom you have your hair cut like Rihanna" I told him that was 25 yr ago she cut her hair like mine.Yes I rocked a blonde pompadour like mohawk while rocking polo dress shirt,tie and cardigan.Can you say different? LOL!



But somewhere very early own I realized that I was not like most of my friends.I realized that some were not very nice and I learned to distance myself.



That started the first label....Stuck up.



I also learned that some people just smile in your face and tell you what you want to hear,to stay on your good side til they need you or what something from you.I learned to distance myself from these people also.



Thus the next label........She thinks she's all that.





I discovered that everybody can't handle the truth nor want to hear the truth.When you don't see things their way and state the truth they don't like it.



Here comes two more labels..........Jea lous,,Hater.





Now of course I do not fall under any of these labels or any other label some throw my way and I know this for a fact,so it doesn't bother me that someone or some people feel that way towards me.



I pray for them first.



I understand it's not about me,it's about them and how they feel about me and that's not my problem.



I'm will continue to live,love,laugh,smi le and just be me!!!!

Posted by RastaMerma.. Jun 20, 2010 11:41 PM EDT

"What's Your Happy Dance?


"That's right a happy dance.




A little dip of the hip,a two step or do you break it on down?



You see guys dancing in the inzone celebrating a touchdown.



You need to dance you a little jig when you make a touchdown in life.



I promise you once you get your dance,and do it whenever you accomplish a task,you'll find yourself dancing all the time.



Stay Blessed